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S unable to leave the house for any length of time and so on It s not until Jen seeks help from a professional psychologist that she begins to move on very very slowly At the beginning of the book Jen avers that she s not a mental health professional and can t make a clinical diagnosis of psychopathy mental illness I m not a mental health professional ither and I m not at all convinced Marco is a sociopath It seems to me that Marco like many other men might just be a serial cheater who can t keep his pants zipped That said Marco is not a nice guyand IT IS telling that he shows no interest in little Louisa and never sees her Marco had numerous affairs with womenOther reviewers have mentioned that Jen should have allowed time to pass before writing a book about her trauma and I agree I think that further distance from the breakup would have allowed Jen to pen a objective narrative It s very harsh to throw around the word sociopathparticularly with no clinical diagnosis by a trained therapist The book is readable but it s repetitive stuffed with filler and feels fictionalized to me Jen remembers incidents in remarkable detail and spends a good part of the book talking about her child In the narrative Jen is constantly kissing Louisa s head smoothing the baby s hair looking into the child s Convents and the Body Politic in Late Renaissance Venice eyes dressing the child undressing the child breastfeeding the baby talking to Louisa cooing at Louisa walking to the beach with the baby walking through the mall with the baby passing Louisa to grandma passing Louisa to grandpa and so forth I have no doubt that Jen loves Louisa but I don t need to hear that much about itJen Waite and Lousia All in all I wouldn t call this a great book but I think it might be helpful to people who have doubts about their partner to show them how to identify a cheater and to people going through a painful breakup to demonstrate that there s light at thend of the tunnel Jen plans to become a licensed therapist specializing in recovery from psychopathic relationships and I wish her the best of luck with thatYou can follow my reviews at This memoir felt half baked to me Waite s conclusion that her Edicts of Asoka ex husband is a psychopath is based on her internet searches which are recounted here in not so fascinating detail Without something definitive than that though it was hard for me to know what to think I mean he was a terrible husband there s no doubt about that but I was also baffled at Waite s own behavior specifically the way she seemed to be in the habit of snooping into his private messages fromarly on in their courtship It never seemed like a healthy marriage to me so I wasn t super invested in its dissolution There s also the fact that all of this happened disconcertingly recently Waite mentions her money troubles at the Upgrade Soul end and I had a nagging feeling that this book was rushed for financial reasons I think A Beautiful Terrible Thing would have benefited from a few years of introspection on Waite s part Having said all that the book definitely kept my attention and I read it in less than two days If you re just looking to gawk at a trainwreck no judgment on my part that s why I picked it up this memoir fits the bill nicely 2 starsRead through the courtesy of NetGallery and PENGUIN GROUP Blue Rider Press PlumePlume When you let yourself think that you are only worth what others see in you then you willnd up as the author of this autobiography has She placed herself and immersed herself so much in Marco a three time failure in his relationships with women Letting one become so Ecstasies: Deciphering the Witches' Sabbath enraptured that you do notven see human weakness set Ms Waite up for what Marco did and what he wasMarco was a sociopath and he preyed on women as he searched for their flaws and weaknesses He became in their minds the do all and Elizabeth I: Translations, 1544-1589 end all ofverything and the women so many of them fell so Dolphin Confidential: Confessions of a Field Biologist easily into the lair he set Ms Waite kept on failing to notice that what was happening wasmotional abuse She kept on making xcuses in her mind for why Marco did things that to others were blatantly vident of infidelities of lies of usageOne does feel for the author She was a product of what seemed to be wealthy parents They did care for her and provide a security net but sometimes that net did harm than good She was fortunate having them there at very turn Many others going through the same turmoil had no oneWhat bothered me about this novel was the weakness of this woman She seemed to believe she was nothing without Marco a man who humiliated cheated on and so disrespected her that he cheated on her while she laid in the hospital having his child Yet ven then she agonized over leaving him Perhaps I just do not understand how a woman of today s world does that However that being said I was happy to see that she was in counseling Hopefully in years to come through therapy she will come to see her own intrinsic value lies within herself not any man Wow I don t know what I missed but this read like the self indulgent recounting of the nd of a relationship but definitely not but this read like the self indulgent recounting of the nd of a relationship but definitely not so shocking it merited a memoir I felt like I was listening to a self centered friend tell a story of woe as though she was the only person in the world to From Cottage to Bungalow: Houses and the Working Class in Metropolitan Chicago, 1869-1929 ever have her heart broken by an unscrupulous man Her husband cheated and lied while she was pregnant and was stunningly dishonest about his affair when confronted with thevidence At times he was clearly conflicted about whether he ve E galley provided by Edelweiss Penguin Publishing Group and Author Jen Waite for my honest opinion To be published July 11 2017What *if the man you thought you married turned out to be someone lse ntirely What do *the man you thought you married turned out to be someone lse From Notes to Narrative: Writing Ethnographies That Everyone Can Read entirely What do do when your dream guy the father of your infant daughter turns out to be a liar a cheat possiblyven a sociopath In retrospect would you see the signs Using a format of alternating chapters of Before and After Jen Waite does her best to tell her story so others might not have to go through the heartbreak that she has From the Enemy's Point of View: Humanity and Divinity in an Amazonian Society experienced It is not alwaysasy to follow and a bit choppy at times but her willingness to bare her soul is the major strength of this book Heartfelt this memoir could have benefited from better Doris Salcedo editing If you re uestioning your gut feelings that something is not right in your relationship this could be the right book for you 4 stars publishes 71117 Thanks to First to Read and Plume Books for an Advanced digital copy of this book for an honest review This is a memoir of pain and suffering It stems from a hurtfulvent that must go through the cycle of pain and anger doubt and self loathing It is the feeling of helplessness when you realize that your love cannot heal the problem This story is very candid Jen Waite has spent most of her marriage trying to ignore the signs of an unfaithful husband He always has a reason an xcuse a story to cover any mishap Jen wants to believe him she loves him Her happy marriage is falling apart Her husband is cheating Jen has just had a baby with the man she planned to spend the rest of her life with What has happened What went wrong This story chronicles planned to spend the rest of her life with What has happened What went wrong This story chronicles s discovery her self doubt the xcruciating admission to herself and her recovery from a bad marriage to a psychological liar and sociopath This novel is written without any xcuses Jen does not hide from the facts nor from her inability to process this life altering vent Take this journey with Jen and decide what you would have done in her situatio. Delity and betrayal than she could have imagined Waite obsessively analyzes her relationship trying to find a single moment from the last five years that isn't part of the long con of lies and manipulation With a dual timeline narrative structure we see Waite's romance bud bloom and wither simultaneously making the heartbreak and disbelief ven affectin. .
This book was not what I xpected and not in a good way Based on the blurb we re led to believe A Beautiful Terrible Thing will be something shocking out of the ordinary unbelievable But what we get isnone of those things Yes Waite s husband is a liar a cheater a seemingly remorseless jerk who s constantly trading in his girl for a younger modelbut guess what So are a lot of other people As sad and hurtful as those behaviors are they are not that Grand Illusion: The Third Reich, the Paris Exposition, and the Cultural Seduction of France extraordinary And while I get that thisxperience was traumatic and painful for Waite I m not sure it warrants publishing a memoirMuch of the book reads like diary ntries of Waite chronicling the rise and fall of her relationship and as you d xpect from a dear diary Great Plains: America's Lingering Wild entry it s flowery and not particularly well written and ultimately a bit adolescent the incessant use of babe and baby as a term ofndearment and the actual printing of the phrase bro code in a serious usage as two glaring Hard Bread (Phoenix Poets examples Then we follow her down the rabbit hole of trying to figure out WHY WHY WHYverything happened and are treated to scenes of her researching sociopathy on internet message boards and Wikipedia these sources aren t reliable Electromyography for Experimentalists enough to be used for a school paper let alone an actual published book But wait Lest we think thentire premise of this book was based on Waite amateurly diagnosing her husband with an actual personality disorder thanks to the internet she magically finds validation in a real live therapist I find it INCREDIBLY hard to believe that a therapist would provide Forgetful of Their Sex: Female Sanctity and Society, ca. 500-1100 even a guess at a diagnosis for someone they ve neverven spoken to and that said therapist would use that as the focus for Waite s visits In a nutshell unless you like rubbernecking at car accidents or find fascination in other people s suffering skip this one There s no big reveal no revelation nothing ven really ducational in this memoir Runaway Wedding except for the reminder that rose colored glasses are never the best lenses through which to view your world I struggled to finish listening to this memoirA Beautiful Terrible Thing A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal by Jen Waite This audiobook narrated by the author was described as an account of this young woman s heartbreaking discovery of life destroying lies and what her life was like in the aftermath of her demolished marriage I admit I was pulled in by the dramatic words and I had the impression that somethingxtraordinary must have occurred between this woman Jen Waite and her husband Marco I don t want to trivialize this woman s pain she was very clearly hurt angry and felt betrayed by her husband and I don t doubt that to her what occurred felt like the Wicked Loving Lies end of her life or at least the life she had imagined and planned for Sadly and unfortunately her story is far from uncommon Several weeks after the birth of the couple s first child a daughter Jen Waite stumbled upon anmail between her husband and a woman a message which made her stomach drop and made her suspicious that her husband was having an affair This suspicion led her down a path of La heredera del mar engaging in amateur detective work and hyper vigilance Since she possessed the passwords to Marco s social media accounts and hismail she went looking for proof And when people are searching for something they usually find what they are looking forThe story of this marriage is told in moving from before the betrayal to after the betrayal and Ms Waite relates very minute detail of her failed relationship in what sound like daily diary ntries the mails text messages and dozens of phone calls between her husband and a young Croatian woman he had been having an affair with ven speaking with her on the night his daughter was born Ms Waite also began obsessively stalking the woman s Facebook page as well She confronts Marco with the vidence she has collected and it really is no surprise that he denies the relationship but he continues to lie to her and continues the relationship with the other woman Eventually Ms Waite who has become so motionally distraught she cannot take care of her infant calls her parents who pick her her daughter and her belongings up and move them to Maine to her parent s home where she then holes up in her childhood bedroom with her newborn her parent s home where she then holes up in her childhood bedroom with her newborn wallowing in self pity for months I know I sound harsh and I don t mean to be impatient with this womanCoping with the Aramaic Bowl Spells: Jewish Babylonian Aramaic Bowls Volume One end of her marriage and the fact she had a newborn baby to care for wasxtremely difficult But I couldn t rid myself of the recurrent thought that she was actually uite fortunate her parents were so supportive of her and allowed her to completely fall apart while they kept a roof over her and her daughter s head Perhaps it didn t occur to her that this scenario of a marriage Xenophon And His World (Historia Einzelschriften) ending badly plays outvery day and many people do not have the luxury of retreating to their childhood bedrooms in their parents homes when life s calamities occur Many people do not have the luxury of grief or self pity as their lives and their children s lives depend on their continuing to go through the motions of life Geography of the Gaze: Urban and Rural Vision in Early Modern Europe even if they don t feel like doing so It wasn tven Jen Waite s self indulgent attitude which bothered me most about this book and caused me to actually talk back to her narration The aspect of the story which continues to bother me is that she decided after researching online that is she read several articles that the Groove: An Aesthetic of Measured Time explanation for her troubled marriage is that her husband Marco is a sociopath She then continues to refer to him as a sociopath throughout the book I realize that sociopath is a term which is currently very popular in our culture and many books have been written describing foolproof ways you too can diagnoseveryone in your life as having anti social personality disorder I find this idea ridiculous Is Marco a sociopath I have no idea but really neither does she Yes he IS a jerk a liar and a cheat and it struck me from the beginning of the story that perhaps he was using her to obtain his green card yes he was an illegal immigrant But many many people lie and cheat Are they ALL sociopaths Probably not And the thing I found most astonishing is that Ms Waite mentioned her sociopathy theory to her therapist and the therapist readily agreed with her that marco was a sociopath I found this incredible What therapist would assign a label of sociopath to a person she had never met let alone xamined At this point I can only conclude that Ms Waite wanted to sell books and she found a sensational way to do so My sympathy for her became harder to muster I AM sorry Jen Waite chose a man for her life *partner who turned out to be a liar and a cheat that *who turned out to be a liar and a cheat that a very tough life lesson and I hope she will be able to find some peace of mind as she has a daughter to raise I am wondering if down the line she will regret publishing this book because I don t think she was at all thinking about the future and how her daughter might feel about her father and about her family as a wholeI don t feel comfortable assigning any memoir less than 3 stars because I think it does take courage to share your pain and humiliation with the world I can t RATE someone s feelings At the same time
I Can T Really Saycan t really say recommend this book ither unless of course you are a person who finds yourself in a similar situation Maybe then the reading this book would allow you to realize you definitely are not alone in your Forgetful of Their Sex experiences This book was Jen s BEST revenge herx. What do you do when you discover that the person you've built your life around never xisted When it could never happen to me does happen to you These are the uestions facing Jen Waite when she begins to realize that her loving husband the father of her infant daughter her best friend the love of her life fits the textbook definition of psychopath In Husband Marco is an imbecile I hope Jen got her HEA and I hope Marco s thing shrivels up and falls off BOOM That s it it s not asking for too much is it GR friend Julie described reading A Beautiful Terrible Thing as gawking at a train wreck My feelings xactly And let me add a few other feelings While clearly personally devastating Ms Waite s F. Scott Fitzgerald's The Great Gatsby experience of betrayal of having been duped by herx husband is sadly not that unusual I can think of a few people I know who have had similar Walled (The Line, experiences some of them far jaw dropping I hope for Ms Waite that in the years to comespecially when her daughter becomes old Cruel Attachments: The Ritual Rehab of Child Molesters in Germany enough to read this book she doesn t have too much writer s remorse I m sure writing and publishing this book felt cathartic but I m not sure how well that feeling will age I m surprised a mainstream publisher picked this one up The telling through dual timelines is clever but other than that this is not a particularly unusual story and the self analysis at thend is really amateurAll this to say I feel bad for Ms Waite in the way I would feel bad if a friend or acuaintance was telling me this story but I m a bit stumped as to why it s book worthyTake my review with a grain of salt This book made me feel really judgmental which is one of my least favourite reactions when reading a memoir Clearly other readers have felt far mpathy for Ms Waite or otherwise got shock value out of her storyThanks to Netgalley and the publisher for an opportunity to read an advance copy In this memoir Jen Waite tells the story of her failed marriage I decided to read the book after I saw the author being interviewed on television and became curious about her tragic taleJen WaiteThe date January 20 2015 will be forever tched on Jen Waite s brain It was on that day when her baby Louisa was 3 weeks old that Jen saw the mail from her husband Marco Medina to a real state brokerJen Waite with her baby Louisa The message read My girlfriend and I have decided to go with another apartment but thank you for your time FYI Marco Medina isn t his real name According to Daily Entertainment News Waite a former actress and model disguises her Tempting Fate ex hubby s identity calling him Marco and also saying he is from Argentina but the real subject of her book is Carlos Beltran originally from ColombiaJen Waite s husband Marco Medina aka Carlos BeltranWhat Girlfriend Jen hysterically confronted her husband whoxplained that he d been helping a Croatian co worker look for a new place to live and had mistakenly used the word girlfriend In her confusion Jen accepted this account but not really and her suspicions increased when she looked at the Croatian s Facebook page and saw a sexy blonde vixen In addition Marco s behavior became and disturbing and he claimed that something was wrong with him because he felt nothing when he looked at Jen and Louisa Jen became terribly concerned about Marco s health and tried to find ways to cure him but had little successEventually Jen came to fear that Marco had been having an affair with the Croatian who she dubbed Croella for months starting when Jen was pregnant with LouisaCruella DeVille from 101 Dalmations Marco consistently denied any wrongdoing insisting he was just friends with the foreignerwho wasn t his type For her part Jen tried to convince herself that Marco was a faithful husband But the vidence of cheating built upJen s blinders came offand the marriage imploded This left Jen a single mother depressed devastated and barely able to go on The book alternates between Before and After In the Before chapters Jen writes about meeting Marco and the intense courtship that led to their marriage In the After chapters Jen details her step by step unveiling of Marco s perfidy her decision to leave him and the subseuent fallout that almost destroyed herBefore Jen was an aspiring model
And Actress From Maine Livingactress from Maine living him and the subseuent fallout that almost destroyed herBefore Jen was an aspiring model and actress from Maine living in York City to further her career Jen Waite was an aspiring model and actressShe was waitressing to make nds meet and rarely saw her long distance boyfriend Jeff When Jen took a job at an about to open new restaurant she met bar manager Marco at the orientation and it was like lightning struck her Jen Waite was attracted by Marco s dark good looksMarco a dark handsome Argentinian overwhelmed Jen with flattery and attention a behavior called love bombing and appealed to her sympathy when he admitted that he was living in the country illegally had been in two long term but failed relationships and had a son Sebwho lived with his mother Long story short Jen fell madly in love with Marco and dumped Jeff Marco seemed to be the ideal boyfriend affectionate respectful charming and ambitiousand he got a thumbs up from Jen s friends and family Jen went so far as to invest 75000 in a restaurant Marco wanted to open certain that they would be partners for life Jen Waite and Marco got One Giant Leap engagedMarco soon proposed which led to marriage pregnancy and the birth of Louisa Jen thought her life was perfect and she wascstatically happyuntil that fateful day January 20After Once Jen started to suspect that Marco was seeing Croella she began to check his Apocalyptic Cartography emails phone records take out deliveries and Uber account and uncoveredvidence of innumerable lies and deceptions Jen decided to leave her husband but he acted sad and pathetic and with the help of his parents initially convinced her to stay Marco s infidelity continued however and Jen finally left with Louisa moving to Maine to live with her parents Jen s parents are the heroes of the book They re supportive and helpful and always have their daughter s backJen Waite and Louisa moved to MaineThough Jen moved out she couldn t move on and felt compelled to know verything that was going on between Marco and Croella Thus Jen CONSTANTLY refreshed her smartphone to look at Marco and Croella s posts on Facebook Instagram Twitter and so on Jen spent hours and hours doing this very dayunable to stop herself Further Jen discussed her sad situation with EVERYONE and came to learn that Marco was serially unfaithful and had cheated with waitresses throughout their courtship and marriage As Jen tried to make sense of the unhealthy partnership that she d considered ideal she became an amateur psychologist Jen spent day after day looking up internet articles about cheating spouses and concluded that Marco was a sociopath Jen Waite concluded that Marco was a sociopathThe urban dictionary defines a sociopath as follows Sociopaths are people who have little to no conscience They will lie cheat steal and manipulate others for their own benefit They re really nice and charming at first but it s A Bride for McCain extremely fake There is no reasoning with this person Things have to be their way or it s the highway They will blame you for hurting themven if they re the ones who hurt you or blame the world for all their problems They are compulsive liars and Heart and Soul / Almost Heaven even if they do apologize it s never genuine Piece of advice Once you realize that you are dealing with a sociopath RUNWhen Jen discovers that Marco is a sociopathverything becomes clear to her and she comprehends the reasons for his adultery and hurtful behavior This doesn t make things any asier though and Jen continues to stalk Marco and Croella online Jen s sadness and her painful discoveries about Marco s new relationship make her physically ill Jen Waite grew physically illShe gets stomach aches and panic attacks loses weight doesn t shower Raw first person account Waite recounts ach heartbreaking discovery very life destroying lie and reveals what happens once the dust finally settles on her demolished marriageAfter a disturbing mail sparks Waite's suspicion that her husband is having an affair she tries to uncover the truth and rebuild trust in her marriage Instead she finds lies infi.