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Maid For An Alien Prince dIs mean he acts like If a person is a crook he will act Them acting opposite of what we assume they should act like causes us to misjudge them and get the wrong idea Well surely this is not a new idea To me many of the examples he use eitheron t fit this have many other factors involved or at times he even contradicts his own theoriesLet s start with Sandra Bland His favored incident in the book His argument here is that she Reading Migration and Culture didn t fit the idea of law abiding citizen the cop had in his head when he pulled her over and it caused him to be afraid and assume she was a criminal She was shifty irritable and generally not happy to be pulled over Well who is I ve had some tickets in myay and I have only once been what would be called a bit snappy to a cop but even when polite I generally always feel on edge I ve even cried before when I was struggling with money and afraid of getting a ticket I The Formula for Success don t want a ticket and if I m getting one I want the situation to be over ASAP Don t we all So compare me to Sandra who as a black woman has a whole extra level of fear of the situation as well as the fact that she has had many traffic stops than I over generally minor stuff These cost her a lot of money and are very stressful Even if the officeridn t know she got stopped often in the past anyone who has been watching the news LIKE EVER knows African Americans may at times act nervous or aggregated than white African Literature and Social Change drivers because of cases like Freddie Gray Michael Brown etc etc And if ANYONE knows this itamn well would and should be a cop How are we to believe he had Never Trust a Blood Relative Talking to Strangers is an elaboration of a simple trivial idea It s very ifficult to tell when people are lying According to Timothy Levine the academic psychologist on whom Gladwell relies for his basic argument the presumption that people tell the truth is almost universal a few Holy Fools and I suppose Judge Judy excepted Levine calls this his Truth Default Theory Gladwell applies it entertainingly if rather repetitively to cases of uplicity ranging from Please Will Someone Help Me? double agents in government agencies to international financial fraudThe interesting part of Gladwell s thesis is that we can t be trained out of our predisposition to believe what credible people that is folk who exhibit facial traits and body language which conform to cultural conventions have to say Police judges regulatory officials even counter espionage experts have eually poor records foretecting falsehood compared to the rest of us it also works the other way round truth telling appears as lying if accompanied by mis matched behavioural signals We are genetically programmed to be Seventh Street Alchemy A Selection of Writings from the Caine Prize for African Writing 2004 Caine Prize for African Writing series dupes I suspect sex as the evolutionary motive And there is no reliable technology thatoes any better The implication for me is that the anyone is familiar with expected conventional behavioural responses and can perform these as needed the credible they will be Not a terribly innovative conclusion admittedly but it Dripping Hot Action does suggest that Gladwell has the wrong end of the authenticity stick We may have to worry about strangers being honest but the realanger is the mendacity of those closest to us those who know what we find credible namely intimate family members not strangersThere s another issue as well It s clear that most 0f us lie to ourselves from time to time that is we conveniently and selectively recall events which confirm our self rationalising narratives We cannot observe our own physical behaviour to No Place To Cry: The Hurt and Healing of Sexual Abuse determine the extent of mismatch Nor would it make anyifference if we could since we may actually believe our own press as it were I know academics and business people who act this way as a matter of routine It s part of their strategy for success They speak and write with total conviction about things they really know nothing about One of these may be the president of the United States Who knows perhaps even Gladwell is amongst these experts at self All That Glitters (Alchemys Heirs delusion and is simply scamming the rest of us with complete sincerityOr am I merely projecting a sort of cynicism about Gladwell s slick rapportage Possibly But heoes seem to have a somewhat murky past as a African American English: A Linguistic Introduction defender of severalodgy industries like tobacco and pharmaceuticals See Presumably he was uite handy at spinning credible publicity out of otherwise Great Short Stories by African-American Writers damaging facts Transparency Gladwell says is a myth an idea we ve picked up from watching too much television and reading too many novels One wonders to whategree his book might be an instance of the phenomenon he is Drunk On Chocolate describingOh and as an aside the attribution of theeath "Of A Black Student " a black student the custody of a Texas jail to an escalating miscommunication between strangers of a black student in the custody of a Texas jail to an escalating miscommunication between strangers on the obscene His use of this example to book end his narrative and his references to it as a recurring theme suggest some serious judgmental Major Problems in African-American History: From Freedom to Freedom Now, 1865-1990s (Major Problems in American History Series) deficiencies Ion t feel myself Academia defaulting to truth or Gladwell s purported truth in the leastPostscript 18Sept19 it appears that Gladwell s bubble is bursting TWetailed A Beginner's Guide to Immortality: From Alchemy to Avatars descriptions of rape and pedophiliaIf it were possible to give a book negative stars this would be a 10 for meMalcolm Gladwell is incredibly influential From books to podcasts to TED talks he seems to be everywhere and his story based approach reaches a large number of people whoon t uestion his cre I was trying to work through my thoughts on this book when Goodreads Love on the Rocks Men Women and Alcohol in Post World War II America did an interview with Malcolm Gladwell and this one thing he said just made everything clear for me I ve never been a writer who s looked to persuade his readers I m interested in capturing their interest and curiosity Because truthfully Ion t know that Gladwell Beths Stable Stolen by an Alien did fully convince me of his way of thinking with this book Ion t know that I actually agree that he can Aliens Vs Predator draw a link As I sat at the airport headeep in a book I suddenly heard Hi What To my left stood a handsome man I just thought I should say hi since I see you re reading Talking to Strangers I too thought Malcolm Gladwell s new book was going to teach me how to literally talk with people I For Discrimination don t know but as always he turns all my assumptions on their head with this book If that s what the book was about that stranger and I might be on aate by now If I can convince you of one thing in this book let it be this Strangers are not easy We think we can easily see into the hearts of others based on the flimsiest of cluesAt the 2019 book conference BookExpo America Malcolm pointed out that the problems exemplified by the Academic Writing, Real World Topics death of Sandra Bland a black woman arrested by a white policeman are everywhere not just in thearkest areas of America It lies not only with these individuals but within each of us In his book he takes huge scandals and who Repressed Memories A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse FiresideParkside Recovery Book doesn t love to read about a scandal reacheseep inside like you would your skinniest jeans and then pulls them inside out Except that when he Experiments in a Jazz Aesthetic does this you suddenly realize your jeans had actually been inside out before It is mind bending which means that you have to follow along to at least page 54 before you start to understand where Malcolm is going You will either find this too convoluted to keep going at some point or you will read it all in one sitting as Iid flying from NY to CA My one frustration with this book is that at the very end Malcolm spends only 2 pages 2 saying what we should African Literature 9 do about all he just taught us After speeding through the book that feels like an abrupt stop On the other hand I can t stop thinking about what he reveals along the way I can t unsee what he has shown me and now my framework of looking at the world isifferent And isn t that the mission of any good bookSPOILER ALERT For those of you who Alien Conquest don t keep reading the book here are my key insights But to really understand what Malcolm argues happened in cases like Fidel Castro s fooling of the CIA theeceptions of Bernie Madoff the trial of Amanda Knox the suicide of Sylvia Plath the Jerry Sandusky pedophilia scandal and the eath of Sandra Bland you need to read the whole book 1 THE DEFAULT

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TRUTH PROBLEM o not behave in other words like sober minded scientists slowing gathering evidence of the truth or The trial of Amanda Knox and the suicide of Sylvia Plath you hear Rising Above The Influence: A True Story about Alcohol, Drugs, and Recovery directly from many of the players in these real life tragedies There's even a theme song Janelle Monae's Hell You TalmboutSomething is very wrong Gladwell argues with the tools and strategies we use to make sense of people weon't know And because we on't know how to talk to strangers we are inviting conflict and misunderstanding in ways that have a profound effect on our lives and our worl. .
Talking to Strangers What We Should Know About the People We Don’t KnowI always feel lucky when I get to read a book before its official publication ate A fascinating accessible examination of the miscommunications that can arise when we talk to strangers We re going to interview Malcolm Gladwell for the Happier podcast can t wait for that If this had just been stories about spies and the meeting between Hern n Cort s and Montezuma or whatever I would have rated it five stars There s no uestion that Malcolm Gladwell is a good storyteller I just wish that he would leave it at that and stop trying to shoe horn a bunch of tall tales into some sort of coherent statement about the state of the world I m not a scientist but I think that I know science when I see it I ain t seeing it here The Womens Political Activism in Palestine death of Sandra Bland is what happens when a societyoes not know how to talk to strangers This is the stupidest thing I ve heard concerning this tragedy This was also the whole point of this book and Galdwell s facile explanation is completely without meritThe cop was uite simply a ginormous fucking asshole We have it all on film for Christ s sake He just couldn t let it go that this black woman wasn t bowing Alien Commanders Bride (Draconians, down to him and had the temerity to light up a cigarette in his majestic presence He pulled her over as he states for failing to signal a lane change when he pulled behind her Are you kidding me What kind of copoes thatBrian Encinia OK ma am Pause You OKBland I m waiting on you This is your job I m waiting on you When re you going to let me go Encinia I The alphas abused mate don t know you seem very really irritatedBland I am I really am I feel like it s crap what I m getting a ticket for I was getting out of your way You were speeding up tailing meso yeah I m a little irritatedBrian Encinia Are youone Are you Word Alchemy done What a total asshole There is absolutely no uestion that his tone was completely nasty just listen to the video He asked her if she was OK Whatoes he expect her to say Thank you for pulling me over and fucking with me for no reason whatsoever This was that point when it went from a bullshit traffic stop to something sinister on his part where he had something to prove to himself Unfortunately it came at the expense of another human being who was simply trying to make it through the The Black Renaissance in Francophone African and Caribbean Literatures dayI wish that Sandra Bland had asked him Is this why you became a cop To hassle people for no good reason She was so incredibly reasonable and the cop was just a huge asshole End of story There are no two sides to this He is unfit for the job He either hates black people or he just hates people Either way heoesn t An Endless Lie deserve the public trust that is necessary to be a policemanThis brings up the entire nature of police work Like most other American kids I grew up on a steadyiet of TV and movies in which the heroes were cops yet I never consider being a policeman for even a split second Why Probably because I just never felt the need to have power over anyone else I never felt that I had something to prove We need to test police recruits for this tendency and weed them out if they have a chip on their shoulder like Brian Encinia He should ROMANCE (BWWM Military Romance Boxset) (African American Urban Series Short Stories Book 1) definitely not be a policeman He is a terrible human being especially after the fact when he testified that he felt his life was inangerHuman beings are sometimes or oftentimes fooled by a load of shit some stranger passes off on them Gladwell is now infamous for cherry picking examples that prove his point while ignoring volumes that tell of a My Hero Academia memes for kids - Funny New Memes 2019 different outcome People are often wrong about the intentions of strangers they talk toexcept when they are rightIn all of his ramblings about the CIA the only conclusion we should come to is that the US should just stop spying and try being straightforward and open as a nation just to see where that gets us Spying has produced so little benefit especially when you consider how much money we ve poured into that black hole OK we got Bin Laden but how muchid it cost us to hunt After the Tears down and assassinate one hairy old religious fanatic Imagine instead if we had used all of that money to build schools and hospitals around the world thus building goodwill I think goodwill trumps someead fanatic The issue with spies is not that there is something brilliant about them It is that there is something wrong with us I couldn t Daddy Blames Me disagree with this I would turn this thought on its head The issue with spies is not that there is something brilliant about them It is that there is something wrong with them Of course the Soviets East Germans and Cubans beat the US in spy craft over the course ofecades because they are a people "hatched in Statistical Arbitrage: Algorithmic Trading Insights and Techniques (Wiley Finance) duplicitousictatorships where obfuscation and eceit are reuired for survival "in uplicitous Best African American Fiction 2010 dictatorships where obfuscation andeceit are reuired for survival is precisely why we should have never tried to battle them in this realm We should have gone the route of honesty and full Her Alien Bodyguard (The Guards Of Attala, disclosureAs a nation would we rather excel ateception or honesty Why are we so bad at Teacher For An Alien Doctor (Intergalactic Exchange Program, detecting lies This is a stupid meaningless uestion that makes about as much sense as asking why we are so bad at predicting the outcome of a sporting event You win some you lose someWith that said if your job is to ferret outouble agents in an intelligence organization and you interview someone you suspect and then let them off the hook you suck to put it mildlyGladwell extrapolates some incredibly outrageous outcomes from his little modern fairy talesI had to skip over almost the entire section on the Penn State pedophile story So you are a grown man in a locker room You see another man having sex with a child in plain sight and you run away without New Trends Generations in African Literature Today, Alt 20 doing anything What a bunch of cowards we are The Mcueary guy ran upstairs to call his parents What I would haveone had I been in that same situation before running upstairs to call my parents would have been to beat that pedo call my parents would have been to beat that pedo to The Battle over Marriage death That would have been a better story to tell mom andad than to say that I had witnessed a child rape and Teaching History for Justice did fuck all about it I couldn t live with that level of cowardiceI had to skip over Chapter Six because iteals with the TV show Friends which makes me physically illToo Good Just for the CommentsGoodreads User James wrote Malcolm Gladwell professional ultracrepidarian I thought this was brilliant at least I Laughing to Keep from Dying did after I looked up the word As somewhat of a professional linguist I sought out the roots of the word and found probably the most fascinating origin story of any word I ve ever looked upUltracrepidarian1 one who is presumptuous and offers advice or opinions beyond one s sphere of knowledge2 an insufferable gas bag at least in Gladwell s caseETYMOLOGYFrom Latin ultra beyond crepidarius shoemaker from crepida sandal Earliestocumented use 1819NOTESThe story goes that in ancient Greece there was a renowned painter named Apelles who used to INTERRACIAL ROMANCE display his paintings and hide behind them to listen to the comments Once a cobbler pointed out that the sole of the shoe was not painted correctly Apelles fixed it and encouraged by this the cobbler began offering comments about other parts of the painting At this point the painter cut him off with Ne sutor ultra crepidam meaning Shoemaker not above the sandal or one should stick to one s area of expertiseAddition The story was told by the Roman writer Pliny the Elder hence Latin I DNF this book after reading too many cringey statements from Gladwell He wants to categorize a whole range of evils from the victimization of unarmed black people Sandra Bland to women being raped at colleges parties Brock Turner as mere communication issues between people Sure there might be some element of miscommunication but it completely misses the point that there are much larger problems and bigger things going on beyond that I get that he s trying to cram these situations into his premise in order to write this book but the result s trying to cram these situations into his premise in order to write this book but the result completely tone Stolen Years deaf and helps to justify crimes and ignorance Instead of encouraging people to be educated on things theon t understand like consent or why prejudice against black people can lead to excessive force against them Gladwell chalks it up to communication barriersTo be clear Gladwell Sarah T - Portrait of a Teenage Alcoholic doesn t try to say that Bland was at fault for hereath but. 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Rather that the officer Black Visions: The Roots of Contemporary African-American Political Ideologies didn t properlye escalate However he also takes time to explain why race had nothing to Black Roots: A Beginners Guide to Tracing the African American Family Tree do with the situation For example he ignores the mountain of evidence that shows that black people are routinely pulled over freuently Instead Gladwell explicitly states that the officer secision was not race motivated However he reaches this conclusion based on nothing His sole support for that statement is the statistic that shows this officer often wrote tickets to the tune of 1557 just that year but it s a meaningless number that My Hero Academia memes jokes - Funny and Jokes memes book doesn t prove anything if weon t know if those tickets were evenly or fairly Technologies for Understanding and Preventing Substance Abuse and Addiction distributed There s also the uestion of whether this book states anything new The idea that black people are treated exactly the same as everyone else and racism is a myth or that women whorink are partially to blame for being raped are two extremely old arguments There s nothing new or interesting about it It s old tired and not worth anyone s time There s also uestionable logical leaps that Gladwell makes to put forth his antiuated arguments Mystifyingly a survey showing that people have Secret Origins Action Figures different ideas on what constitutes consent leads him to the conclusion that there are no rules when it comes to consent Umm what So if I took a survey that showed that most peopleon t know where the Ukraine is located Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o: A Bibliography of Primary and Secondary Sources, 1957-1987 (Bibliographical Research in African Written Literatures, No 1) does that mean the Ukraine has no location oroes it mean that people are ignorant Gladwell s tortured logic for the sake of justifying rape is mind boggling Skip this awful intellectually vapid book 922019 I m knocking this Active Noise Control Systems: Algorithms and DSP Implementations (Wiley Series in Telecommunications and Signal Processing) down to two stars Gladwell s really bad takes on things like race and sexual assault juston t Effective executive in action deserve an okay ratingWowoes this book ever suffer from a severe case of foot in mouth Data Structures and Algorithms in C disease I almostidn t make it past the introduction In my pre publication copy Gladwell writes The Sandra Bland case came in the middle of a strange interlude in American public life and then goes on to Fundamentals Of Agriculture Vol -2 discuss a series of cases of police violence against black people that happened around 2014 Strange interlude ReallyThat phrasing suggests that this treatment was some sort of aberration in American history and that the violence only happeneduring the few years he references Did Gladwell really mean to ignore America s long history of this problem I To Heal a Wounded Heart don t think so I think he may have meant that the attention paid to police violence was unusual butude choose your words much carefullyLater on there are some good points made about how and why we tend to misunderstand each other But again I almost put the book Narcissistic Abuse Recovery down this time while reading the chapter on the Brock Turner sexual assault case Without going intoetail that chapter could only have been written by someone who s buried his head in the sand over the past five years or soIt s tough to ignore the problematic elements of Talking to Strangers I could absolutely see the iscussion of the causes of sexual assault offending some readers to the point that they abandon the book altogether I ve efinitely enjoyed other books by the author a lot than this one Three stars but that s being generous Thanks to NetGalley and Little Brown and Company for giving me a DRC of this book which will be available for purchase on September 10th Malcolm Gladwell is viewed as a hugely influential writer and I was eagerly anticipating reading this my first taste of his work a body of his thinking on how we the people are extraordinarily gullible when it comes to strangers all too easily taken in by them in our general eagerness to trust rather than be cautious He gives a raft of well known examples from history such as Neville Chamberlain being all to willing to take Hitler at face value and recent contemporary examples such as the runaway success of Bernie Madoff s fraudulent ponzi scheme until it all fell apart interspersed with interviews with prominent personalities It turns out that overall I was A Memory of Mankind doomed to beisappointed with this bookFor me he makes far too many generalisations often jumping to ill thought out judgements and conclusions whilst omitting key variables and all too keen to let off those with responsibilities to prevent abuse The problem is that he sounds frighteningly plausible and genial in the manner in which he lays out his often controversial poorly researched thinking so Will Teach for Food Academic Labor in Crisis Cultural Politics disarmingly seductive and there are occasions that I cannoteny he is certainly interesting and thought provoking The latter is insufficient for me to recommend this tome to other readers I would prefer to Civil Rights Activism in Milwaukee direct readers to the many far expert and well thought out other psychological studies on the complexities of human communication which in my view will turn out to be a helpful and productive experience and additionally are academically rigorous Many thanks to Penguin UK for an ARC UPDATE 92319I have now changed this to one star The I read about this and other pseudo psych crap he pushesno no no The enjoyment of some parts of the bookoes not outweigh the total garbage of parts of it Two examples are linked below with a particularly shocking tidbit from one most important part of the first link Gladwell You know I have that chapter on Jerry Sandusky in my book and it s all about how I feel the leadership of Penn State was totally outrageously attacked over this I think they re blamelessSimmons YeahGladwell But with Joe Paterno Joe Paterno essentially Counter Discourse in African Literature did nothing wrong He hears the allegation and immediately tells his superiors and the critiue of Joe Paterno was essentially Why was a 75 year old football coach not behaving towards a suspected pedophile with the savvy and insight of a psychiatrist Simmons RightGladwell He s a football coach Heoesn t even know what the word there was this hilarious regretful sigh hilarious there was this moment in I think one of the trial transcripts where someone was asked Did you use when you went to the uarterback who goes to Paterno Mcueary the former uarterback goes to Paterno to tell him this allegation Did you use the word sodomy And he s like No I idn t use the word sodomy And then there s this sort of thing I think where they re wondering whether Paterno actually knew what the word sodomy was laughingSimmons wondering whether Paterno actually knew what the word sodomy was laughingSimmons He oesn t He s been thinking football 24 hours a Scalia V. Epstein day 365ays a year for 60 years He is not going to be alert to the Material Alchemy darkness inside the heart of one of his former coaches You can t ask him too that That s why you have mental health professionals or fit trained psychologists in the world to handle those kind of problems We Falling For A Boss do this thing sometimes when a crisis happens when we suddenly expect our leaders to be skilled at absolutely every job under the sun They re not NO I JUST EXPECT LEADERS TO HAVE A FEW BRAIN CELLS THEY CAN POOL TOGETHER TO UNDERSTAND APPROPRIATE RELATIONSHIPS WWWWTTTF Also as a teacher and there are many other professions that wear many hatsoctors nurses social workers business owners entrepreneurs literally almost any job I am ABSOLUTELY expected to perform than one specific role I manage Basics of successful agriculture in the tropics data help with emotions involve the community report suspected abuse and so on Aso many other underpaid and undervalued professions So it s DISGUSTING and insulting to literally everyone to imply we can allow and expect rich football coaches to be all aw shucks I was only thinking about my next game Ugh The positive is Gladwell always keeps me interested He somehow finds the most interesting anecdotes and stories Even the ones you have heard before he has a way of making them seem like there is always than meets the eye and that they are interesting I was never bored listening to this because even if you on t like one section he s almost on to something elseBut thenHis thing is to take stories that on the surface are completely unrelated and tries to jam them together to fit his central thesis In this book the main thesis is the idea that we can appropriately understandanalyze strangers because we try to get them main thesis is the idea that we can t understandanalyze strangers because we try to get them fit in a box That oesn t work because we They Hear Me Crying Now! (The True Story of Child Abuse Continued) - Child Abuse True Stories don t understand everything about that person and their contextbackground For example If a person. Ackling these uestions Malcolm Gladwell was not solely writing a book for the page He was also producing for the ear In the audiobook version of Talking to Strangers you'll hear the voices of people he interviewed scientists criminologists military psychologists Court transcripts are brought to life with re enactments You actually hear the contentious arrest of Sandra Bland by the side of the road in Texas As Gladwell revisits theeceptions of Bernie Madoff. .